The theme that is on the agenda today is WHAT TO DO if the relationship has become cold? no passion, only resentment and claims
No need to panic. Any problem can be solved if two people want it.
Every relationship has its UPS&DOWNS. From fervent love in the beginning to a stable feeling through acceptance of the other.
The bright fire of passion is extinguished. A new person becomes a part of life, we see him as real, with all the disadvantages, habits, stupidities. The perfect image is gone.
Maybe just rose-colored glasses period finished?
When young love is over, and adult love isn’t ripe yet, the most interesting/complicated part begins.
If we turn to Eastern psychology, a woman expects from a relationship :
🌹Emotional intimacy
🌹Safety
🌹Gratitude.
And a man wants to be:
necessary,
free,
accepted as he is.
If these needs are not covered, the conflict might grow. Add here some childhood grievances, weak points and fears.
The process is painful and mutual. Two loving hearts get hurt each other.
WHAT to DO to survive the winter?
Just remember that this is temporary! Winter is always followed by spring
– TALK! A dialogue about feelings without claims is kind of investment in love
– Show the partner what is important to you. That this relationship is also your value. And reduce the degree of expectations.
– Go back to the happy moments together: in memory and in reality (to arrange some romance). – Create a happy space for two
– Get rid of resentment. They tend to accumulate: write letters to each other about the feelings and pain, if it is difficult to talk about them.
I am ready to announce my new course created with my good friend psychologist and astrologist Lyudmila @kolimbet
10 STEPS TO YOUR DREAM RELATIONSHIP
On the course we will analyze many other ways to create and maintain the fire and warmth of love.
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